I'm so angry that the vast majority of people didn't fully understand what i was saying. Or didn't care. Oh well, here it is:
I skimmed through the many posts on the episode review, and people seemed to love the cake scene. I just don't get it. It seems pretty obvious to me that the writers were more concerned with appeasing the fans than staying true to the characters. The premise of the show two heterosexual guys who love each other. Having them act faux-gay, even for that brief moment, takes away from that premise. It cheapens it. And I feel it caters to the people who don't REALLY appreciate this complex bond that Christian/Sean share. I know people will say i'm reading too much into the scene, and they were just goofing around, but it just didn't ring true to me. There's no way the woman would confuse them for being gay. First of all, i'm quite certain that it was Kimber who booked the tasting. Or at the very least, when Christian booked it, he mentioned who the parties were going to be. Or, when they arrived, someone said "btw, my fiance couldn't make it, so my friend came to help me". I'm disapointed that so many fans were excited by the faux-gay stuff. It annoyed me on two levels: the first being the aforementioned complaints about it being out of character and used just to appease the fans. The 2nd is that i find it homophobic to a certain degree. Yes, i understand that the creator is gay (i THINK i have that fact right, but I may be wrong). But, that doesn't give him, or the show, free reign to write anything they want about the issue. If sean and christian acted "black", wouldn't that be racist [and yes, i know saying "acting black" is in and of itself racist. The more accurate description would be poor/urban city/street]? Why is it ok for straight people to act gay? It was meant to be lighthearted and comical. What's funny about acting gay? Of course, maybe i'm just in left field on this issue. I think Will/Grace has absolutely set the equal-rights/gay movement back decades. | |
 sean_mcnamara RE: The Cake scene was overateNov 27 - 7:01 pm | I thoroughly agree on all points |
 Candy RE: The Cake scene was overateNov 27 - 7:19 pm | They never implied there was anything wrong/bad/silly about being gay. The only humor in it was that they weren't the couple, and they were goofing around, maybe pulling the cake woman's chain a little. Actually, the fact they were so unruffled by being mistaken for a gay couple sort of implies to me that neither one sees it as something that's bad or humiliating. Homophobic or anti-gay men would have corrected her misconception in a big hurry, and possibly been very offended by it. As for it cheapening their "complex" bond, how? They were *joking* around. There are some fans who will enjoy the moment because they'd like to see the relationship take that turn (so where's the harm if some of us get a little guilty thrill that way?), and others who will just laugh at it because to them, it shows how totally comfortable these guys are with their heterosexual friendship that they *can* joke around like that without it changing anything. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 8:00 pm | I think the fact that the clip of them holding hands was featured in all of the previews for the episode speaks volumes. It wasn't just a throw-away casual joking moment. In some small way, it was sort of "here, we are giving the fans what they always wanted." This has been done in other shows as well. I wasn't a huge x-files fan, but i watched enough to know that fans wanted Scully and Mulder together. And there was an episode where a shape-shifter (my god, i can't believe i'm writing this) made himself look like Mulder and "they" almost hooked up. I just felt that the hand holding and stuff wasn't something that the characters would really do, but rather what we would want them to do (even in this joking manner). And i think the characters are at least a bit homophobic, as their reaction to Quentin shows. |
| CarverAnticsRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 8:48 pm | That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. "Giving the viewers what they want"? It's the 10th episode of the season and it lasted like 20 seconds. I really don't think it was meant to stand out. It was just a joke. Two friends kidding around. That's just how relationship between them is. There was nothing out of character about it. And they are far from homophobic considering their anestisiologist happens to be a lesbian. Christian was merely making it firmly known to Quentin that "he isn't that way". modified: Nov 28 - 12:51 am GMT modified: Nov 28 - 12:52 am GMT |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 9:27 pm | I think some people are taking the show too seriously. The show doesnt take itself entirely seriously. Its highly stylized fantasy with blatant disregard to feasible logistics. I think its a mistake to read so much into it. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 10:08 pm | go back to the posts about the episode and you will see more than a handful of people who specifically mention that cake scene as being their favorite. And again, it was featured in the previews. But i guess the fact that it was only 20 seconds is more important than those two facts. Also, why does Christian comment about whether the Chris on the phone is male or female? It's a little dig about being bi-sexual. And remember when Christian tells Sean about him being bi and they both poke fun at each other that Quentin might have a crush on them. I don't buy into the "oh, it's just a TV show" argument when it comes to how things affect our society. These types of things have an impact on the viewers. Will it change our country's view of homosexuality? Of course not. But everything adds to the social consciousness. I feel that it moved it (ever so slightly) towards a more homophobic society. Again, will someone please comment on my question about how the scene would have been perceived if they were acting "black" instead of "gay"? |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 10:14 pm | the cake scene was referenced 17 times in the episode thread. |
| CarverAnticsRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 10:27 pm | People would be flat-out offended if they acted black - especially black people. They are two completely different types of people. It would be tasteless, unfunny, and above all racist. Why do you automatically assume just because this show talks about homosexuality that the writers are trying to send a moral message? It's not uncommon for people to be bi or gay. These characters just happen to be gay. It adds to their storylines. It makes them interesting. The reason why people love this scene is because it is FUNNY. The gay issue itself doesn't make it entertaining or shocking. It's just a cute scene between two buddies joking around. That's it. modified: Nov 28 - 2:29 am GMT |
| BehindBlueEyesRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:00 pm | I like the scene because it was funny and after everything that's been going on with the show, this light hearted moment was a well needed break, for Sean and Christian, and for the people watching the show. I also love how it showed that the guys are so comfortable with themselves, and their friendship, that instead of being quick to correct the woman and tell her they weren't actually a couple, like a lot of straight men would have done, they had fun with it. I've joked around with my friends like that on more than one occasion. I just think it shows how our society today is more accepting of homosexuality/bisexuality. If someone was actually homophobic, I don't think they would joke around the way Sean and Christian did. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:21 pm | 1) And they are far from homophobic considering their anestisiologist happens to be a lesbian. 2) it's not uncommon for people to be bi or gay. These characters just happen to be gay. It adds to their storylines. It makes them interesting. I don’t see how these two statements don’t contradict each other. You use the fact that a character is a lesbian as evidence that the writers aren’t homophobic. Then, you go and say that characters are multilayered and being gay is just a trait and not dispositive of anything. I agree with the latter, but not the former. Just “having a gay character” on the show doesn’t necessarily mean that a show is pro-tolerance. If that character adheres to the negative stereotypes that are common in society, then it reinforces those beliefs. There was a time when movies had people in blackface. Do you think that those types of shows were immune to contributing to racist stereotypes? Unfortunately, we still live in a society where a gay character is gay first, and a regular character second. Liz has been fleshed out quite nicely as a full character. She’s not just a carbon copy of generic lesbian stereotypes. I definitely feel that this helps society grow in terms of tolerance. Another good example would be David and his partner from Six Feet Under. Their characters were so deep and complex that the viewers were forced to see them as “regular people”. Their relationship was one of the realest I’ve ever seen portrayed on television. By no means do I feel that a writer or tv show should feel “obligated” to become a social activist. But there is a general responsibility that comes with producing art that is going to be consumed by the masses. Negative stereotypes and intolerance can seep into your art and become detrimental to society. Everything effects us; it all contributes to our overview of society. We may think we are above this, and that we have free will, but there is a reason that corporations spend billions of dollars in advertising. Sometimes these stereotypes and influences seep into our subconscious without us even knowing it. You label the cake scene as harmless fun that lasted only 20 seconds. You keep saying it was funny, but you don’t ever explain WHY it was funny. I want to know specifically why it was funny. You say acting black is bad, but acting gay isn’t, but you don’t actually explain why. In my opinion, acting gay is the equivalent of telling a polish Joke. It’s not overtly homophobic, but there’s something subtle there. We are almost implying that it’s funny to be gay. |
| sookietexRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:30 pm | kronicfatigue said: "Again, will someone please comment on my question about how the scene would have been perceived if they were acting "black" instead of "gay"?" i was among those who said the cake scene was one of my favorite parts of the ep. i also happen to be black---or as i frequently refer to myself "colored" as that is what it says on my birthcertificate---[i was born in 1958] and i am also part blackfoot indian---but i digress; back to the question. the reason the cake scene appealed to me predominately was the double-entendre dialog i.e. "you're the one i want, the only one i want" for me was clearly christian teasing sean about wanting him to come back to the practice. for me if the dialog had been delivered in a derrogetory/stereotypical way read "lisp" i would have found it offensive rather than cute and funny. but it wasn't. it was in a tongue-in-cheek, casual, matter of fact way. i get your point about the "acting black" question, but again if someone were to deliver a line in a derrrogatory/stereotypical way yes i would be offended. if it were simply funny and not intentionally hurtful i would not be offended. for example some people are offended by what i consider classic comedy; the amos & andy sitcom of the 1950's. the main characters owned their own cab company at a time when in real life that kind of prosperity was virtually unheard of, and it was funny[sorry to any politically correct minded who may not share that view.] also in the film bulworth, warren beatty's character in many scenes for lack of a better descriptive "acts black". i had no problem with that---i was troubled by halle berry's character referring to him as her n***** and him responding to her in kind. since childhood the "n" word is one i've found distasteful, don't use it, and am offended when i hear it no matter who is saying it. i know it's just a word, but there it is. i'll tell you what did offend me in the ep was when they referred to anglo-saxon noses as being "more refined", and the patient tacitly agreeing with that description. WTF man! |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:39 pm | Interesting distinction regarding the lack of the lisp. Just saw the scene again, and you are right, it's not over the top stereotypical (although i didn't care for the way christian said "sweetheart"). I only saw parts of Bullworth, but I hated it. Amos and Andy were before my time. We could have a whole seperate discussion on the N word. There was an amazing documentary on the word...It was fascinating to see so many different opinions on using the word. There's one group of thought that says it's more offensive to call it "the N word" instead of actually saying the real word. In short, they think that it desensatizes (sp) us to the power of the word, when we SHOULD be shocked and offended. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:41 pm | shees! this is SO outta hand. Them acting gay is not homophobic, nor does it have any impact on society's views of gays. Straight guys mock gay guys. They do it in real life, they did it on the show, because the show is supposed to be portraying life (sort of). Thats all there is to it. I cant even believe this thread is serious. White comics mock black guys all the time and vice versa, and everyone laughs. Nobody makes huge protests that it shouldnt be done because it will shift our society into racism. WAYYY too serious here. Of course the media can impact society. But there's nothing going on at that level here. You expect every show to filter itself into being politically correct? S and C are best friends. Best friends are not politically correct with each other. Well, I loved the seen anyway. I had fun with it. And it hasnt made me less accepting of gays or anyone else. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 27 - 11:51 pm | Yes, straight guys mock gay guys in real life. Yes, white comics make fun of black people and vice versa. And, shock of all shocks, we live in a racist and homophobic world. We have states altering their constitution to make sure marriage is only between man and woman. All I'm saying is that I appreciate when art attempts to better the world (or at least not make it a little worse). I think these characters mocking homosexuals, without any consequences or counter argument, has the potential to hurt society. Not sure if you caught the Rosa Parks memorial service, but Al Sharpton gave a great speech that discussed, in part, about the role the entertainers has in black society. He was dismayed about how black women are potrayed as "hoes" and how black rappers use the N word and glorify violence. The rappers defense is always "hey, i'm just holding up a mirror to what's around me". Sharpton ended his speech saying that mirrors aren't just used to reflect, they are used to correct. I hate the idea of cliches/sound bites, but i think that was really on point. If you want to just be "entertained" by a tv show, that is fine. But i enjoy a show a lot more when it makes me think about my own morality and other issues. And it frustrates me when I see a show that I think adds to something negative in the world. But, to each his own. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 12:52 am | I still think you're reading WAY too much in here. Of course we have racism and homophobia in society. I'm appalled at the anti gay marraige movement. It makes me ashamed of our society, quite frankly. But that doesnt mean that ANY treatment of the issues in the media that doesnt bend over backwards to be politically correct and change the world is contributing to the problem. there's nothing in that scene that contributed to any problem. Thats not a 'to each his own' thing. Being able to laugh is not the same thing as propogating ridicule. With all the real problems with homophobia and racism in our society, I think your efforts would be better spent where there is real trouble. There is none here. Just fun here. For most of us. |
| stevecoyRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 2:59 am | I don't think kronic is reading too much into n/t. Reading into entertainment is an important discipline, and nowadays a major part of sociology. It's also one of my favorite things to do.I did sense a subtle homophobia in the scene, Like they were making fun of the chance that they might be gay, or as omniscient viewers of a parallel realty, making fun of such a possibility. But more than that I thought it aws an acknowledgement that S+C's relationship exists somewhere between platonic friendship and gay romantic relationship. Lots of scholars argue that sexuality is a spectrum, not just 3 defined points of gay, bi and straight. Witness the threads on this board talking about S+C being in love, or people wanting to see them have sex, etc. It is because they have demonstrated willingness to be open with each other, to love and support each other, that viewers recongize that their relationship is somewhere in the middle. I found the scene funny, but not because I think gayness is funny, but because the writers,in a tongue-in-cheek way, admitted to us that they're in on the fantasy that many viewers have. And admit it, when Sean said "I love that you love me that way," barely keeping a straight face, it was precious. Perhaps Sean thinks such a scenario is absurd, but not because he thinks gayness is absurd. Moreso because the cake store woman finally gave them an outlet to express a side of their relationship they always knew was there without having to actually be gay. They were making an ironic comment on themselves through a kind of third-person view. Does this make sense? It's hard for me to word it, but maybe it's like they were looking at Bizarro S+C, or flying overhead looking at themselves like in It's a Wonderful Life. I think you can analyze this scene and still find it funny. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:18 am | Well of course s and c were making fun of gays, and displaying some homophobia. And all the other things you describe in the scene, of course thats there. What I'm saying Kronic is reading in is that there is some negative position on the issue that the show is expressing. Its just a harmless scene with two guys doing politically incorrect things. Its not the show making a statement about homosexuality or contributing to negative attitudes. They showed sean hitting julia too, that doesnt mean the show is contributing to some mysogenistic violent movement? He's just reading all this heavy stuff in that just isnt there. All the stuff you cite, stevecoy, is of course there. So I guess I would have been more correct to say he's reading the 'wrong' things in to it. In my opinion anyway. |
| EveryDiva11RE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:28 am | Sterotypes.. Hmmm... This has ruffled a few feathers... The 'cake-lady' thought that Sean and Christian were a couple, because they were cake-tasting together.. She was the one that looked so dumb for that assumption. So why not humiliate her comments more by playing the "gay sterotype"??? That is what I saw in it... That is why I found it amusing... I was laughing at her stupidity, not 'the scene'... It is how both actors portrayed it... I think others saw that as well... It was over the top.. Someone is taking things a bit too serious here. |
| CarverAnticsRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:19 am | I think the scene is funny because they were mistaken for being something they weren't and they went along with it as a joke. That's funny to me. It's as simple as that. If these characters were at all homophobic, they'd be disgusted by what she assumed. If actually believe the writers take a negative stance on homosexuality, then watch the episode "Sophia Lopez". You will see that you are clearly wrong. |
| tracydarlinRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:36 am | Have you ever seen best friends interact? Even straight women have teased like that before. I personally think they were teasing the "cake lady". LOL. I loved the scene. I have seen many guys do that before. No harm done. Comedians have done far more offensive things.  |
| friskyRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:52 am | omg this is so assanine. nobody is mocking anybody else. if anything they are mocking the CAKE LADY.. gosh. this just seems to mellodramatic!!!!! |
| OnlookerRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 6:21 am | I adored the cake scene. I think that, as several people have already pointed out, it showed the opposite of homophobia because they were so relaxed and natural about it. And don't forget they were drinking, too. I loved the fact that they both had the same reaction and it showed that they're finally fully at ease with each other after all the recent tensions (Matt's parentage, Sean's failure to fully back Christian when he was under suspicion). There was one other aspect no on one has remarked on, which was that it came out during that scene exactly how Christian and Julia got together and Sean could see that it was partly his fault, because, as usual he had put career before family. I think Sean finally and fully forgave Christian in that scene. I don't think they were pandering to fan expectations, except insomuch as they finally had a light and funny scene in a pretty dark season, which is something that fans have been complaining about. Ryan Murphy (who IS gay) has always said that this show was a love story between two heterosexual men and that's exactly what it is. It was good to see them together again and feeling comfortable enough about their sexuality to feel not threatened but amused by a misunderstanding. Actually, there was another really funny scene in Oona Wentworth when Matt was called before the headmistress and talked about his "two dads" and she misunderstood and said that that was a more and more common situation. Far from being bigoted, this show is known for its sympathetic depictions of the more unusual types of human relationships. |
| CandyRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 10:16 am | I just have a couple other comments on the cake scene. First, if anyone's worried that it's given viewers who wanted a romance between Sean and Christian what they wanted, relax. Sure, it gave some of us a few guilty giggles, and it's a scene that will probably always be a fan favorite for a myriad of reasons, but if some fans really want a romance between the guys, this wasn't it--it was a joke. What viewers looking for a romance "want" is a serious moment where a shift occurs between them. Not two buddies goofing around (but some of us have some fantasy fun with that since we probably won't ever see a serious version of that moment). So what is it hurting if a few fans have fun with that scene in a way some other fans don't approve of? It's not like we all agree on everything else about the show, either. And second, I agree with CarverAntics--the humor was in them being mistaken for something they weren't--and that's one of the oldest comedy routines in the book. This show has too much of an open minded history about sexuality to consider this one joke among friends homophobic. Actually, the same dialogue and joking could have happened between a man and a woman who weren't really a couple who were mistaken for one. Let's say, Liz and Christian. Sean and Gina. Julia and...well, okay, she's been with most of the guys in the show, so that's not a good example |
| crystallynnRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 11:47 am | if you didn't like the way the show portrayed homosexuals... don't watch it...  |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 12:50 pm | There are a lot of examples within the show that pro-tolerance in terms of the gay community. Like i said before, Liz is a well fleshed out character. Also, Matt's confusion was handled in an intelligent manner (even if we were eventually angered by his actions). I think in general, the show has been a positive in this area. The sophia storyline, the eventual humanizing of the Ava character, Liz's struggles, etc etc. All wonderful and positive things. But, there has been some negatives. Christian didn't just reject Quentin in the foursome, he was flat out agitated. S and C then teased each other about Quentin having a crush on them. Christian also made a snide "is chris a man or a woman" comment when he was on the phone. These things are insignificant compared to all the positives, but they are there. BTW, i clearly misread the comment that i latered numbered and said were hypocritical of each other. I thought you (I can't remember you name) said "the writers have a lesbian anathesiologisit (sp)" when you were actually saying "the doctors have..." Sorry about that. I also think that has led to some of the confusion over my opinion. My concern isn't whether or not the doctors are homophobic. Overall, i don't think they are. Christian told Matt he'd be ok with whatever he was into. Sean EVENTUALLY accepted sophia. My primary concerned was the societal impact of certain scenes. I must have a completely different group of friends then the rest of you. Everyone says that acting gay shows that Sean and Christian are tolerant of that lifestyle. From my experiences, its my homophobic friends who act like that. Maybe not actually kissing hands or touching, but they're the ones to do the lisp impersonations and limp wrist stereotypes. And finally, someone commented about Sean hitting Julia. The difference with that scene is that there were consequences to his actions. He almost loses his daughter b/c of that violent act. That was a dark scene, and it helped bring the issue of violence to the forefront. The mixed emotions i felt over the social workers trying to do their job but hurting an "otherwise non violent" Sean was very gripping. I respect everyone's opinions on this thread. Except for the one that said if i don't like it, just turn it off. Clearly, you didn't read my posts, b/c i'm concerned over the impact that they have on society. If you don't think they have an impact, that's fine. We can disagree on that. But, the "just turn it off" argument is insulting. I guess if i have problems with this administration, i should just leave the country. Sticking my head in the sand wont make the impact on society any less real. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 1:25 pm | So you think ALL shows should totally censor themselves to show only politically correct expressions of any social issue based on the morality of......well, who would decide whats moral....you? Why do you keep asserting that there is some significance to showing this scene? They did what people do. Shows cant allow that to air? It might reflect realistic behavior, but we need to stick our heads in the sand and not view it because YOU think its having a negative impact on society? Only politically correct, pretty pictures that couldnt possibly offend anybody should be allowed to be aired on any media venue? Does this really make sense to you? You sound like Jerry Falwell. |
| bignipRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 1:52 pm | I don't know. I suppose if I had been lead to believe that Christian and Sean are seriously homophobic and they used this scene to add more fuel to their attitude, I may be able to see your point more clearly. However, I'm pretty comfortable that the scene was a private, comical moment shared by two best friends, spoofing on what the cake lady said to them. Sometimes, we just have to laugh in spite of ourselves, without digging in our heals and creating a motive that just isn't there. |
| bignipRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 1:54 pm | double modified: Nov 28 - 5:57 pm GMT |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 1:55 pm | i never once said that they shouldn't be allowed to show this scene. I just didn't care for the scene personally, b/c of the perceived impact i think it could have. Of course they should be allowed to show it. And i'm not going to stop watching/enjoying the show b/c of one scene. A show as "edgy" as n/t is going to have some hits and some misses. I just think this one scene was a miss. I don't think it was intentional at all. The "problems" with the scene are so subtle (some would argue non existent) that i imagine the writers didn't even think about the impact it could have. There are a dozen more controversial scenes/issues within teh show that i absolutely love. First and foremost is the already mentioned violence that Sean displayed. I by no means think i should dictate what's aired and what isn't. Every artist has their own right to put out there whatever they want. I'm not my brother's keeper. But, if i'm a fan of a show, I'm going to notice things that I value. And i'm concerned about how entertainment impacts the society that views it. That's all i'm saying. Nip/tuck has done more good than harm, and that's one of the reasons i like it (the most important reason i like it is b/c i'm entertained). It's always a balancing act. I used to like will and grace, but at some point, the stereotypes became so over the top, that it offended me more than it entertained me. So i stopped watching. I don't think its impact on society is so outrageous that I need to become an activist against it or anything. With this one scene, all i've done is start a thread on a fan board. Some people have disagreed with me and pointed out things that I've used to redefine my stance. Other people might not have thought about the issue before hand, and now they have (and either decided to agree or disagree with me). We could all "move on", but I much prefer a continuing dialogue. I think that's where true intellectual progress is made. Again, the only comment that offended me was the "if you don't like it, don't watch". And that has more to do with my life and how people have reacted to my political beliefs (if it's not obvious, i'm "far left" and have been critical of the war, corporate america, etc etc etc). I disagree with you comparing me to the religous right. Those people want to censure things that offend them. I hate the FCC and have been a strong advocate of the 1st amendment. But, that's a different argument. Everyone should have the right to express whatever they want. I was just pointing out that in this one instance, we should step back and try to understand the impact that it has on society. Entertainment shapes our belief system. In that one scene, i think that there was some subliminal homophobic tendancies portrayed. I was a little surprised by how universally loved that scene was. When i saw it, i shrugged it off as mildly (ever so mildly) offensive, and just moved on. It was only after i read the reader reviews that i became more concerned. But, i guess i'm done with the subject. Anything else i say will just be repetitive. I'm really looking forward to tomm's episode where Christian feels the need to hurt other women to mask his own pain. The way christian deals with his pain has been the most fascinating aspect of the show, in my opinion. |
| love C.T.RE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 2:46 pm | Those people want to censore things that offend them.... Well, yea if it was a perfect world I wouldn't have to see anything I didn't like or anything I thought was offensive! I am a Christian and I have beliefs and it's ok to have them. In reality no one or no thing is perfect. Just because I have certain beliefs and not afraid to express them make me "one of those people"?? It's like everyone is free to say or do whatever they want...be gay, be a movie star, be married, don't be married, black, white chinease, be a animal activist..or be a hunter..Whatever you get the picture!! But as soon as I say hey I'm a Christian..I'm crazy or I get compared to someone like Jerry Falwell!! WHat the hell is that all about? Don't you realize when you said one of those people, that would be the same as if I said that about a gay person or a person who's black, etc. Someone who is religious does not have to be compared to the one guy who is a whacko job (jerry falwell) just like I wouldn't compare all gay people to Richard Simmons or all athesists to Marilyn Manson. GET IT??? Geeshh!! And talk about uptight people..your posts don't have a spot of humor to them and look how long they are!!Add a smiley face once in a while and stop being so uptight...SMILE.... .. sorry that the only religious people you have ever talked to make you feel this way...we are not all this way, in fact Christianity teaches the opposite.."love thy neighbor.." You all have been having chats with the wrong people!!!! |
| stevecoyRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:00 pm | kronic, you are threatening to take away my gold star for intelligent posting! Haha. I really liked your arguments and I agree that media is more meaningful when we discuss its social implications. Homosexuality is adressed in a very refined way on this show most of the time. However I think some of the writer's decisions are made to pander to the lowest common denominator. For me the best example of this is Quentin's bisexuality, not in and of itself, but how it relates to the Carver. The Carver rapes men and women, and Quentin has consensual sex with both, so in MANY people's minds, that means Quentin is the Carver. I can't tell you how furious I was to read many people's posts listing that as a major reason for their Quentin theory, and I had to explain time and time again how rape isn't about sex, blah blah blah...There is a post called "let's put an end to it" somewhere in the Season 3 archives. The point is, people want to be right about their primal beliefs. Homosexuality is still a hot-button issue, and one that many many people are insecure about. The cake tasting scene tried to bring a bit of levity to the debate while, I agree with you, VERY SUBTLY reinforcing that homosexuality is a joke if you're straight. However, I think it was more like "What if we were gay" rather than "My God, we could never be gay, that's horribly absurd." To me, that shows a sensitivity towards the gay community. Honestly, though I consider myself very tolerant and accepting, imagining myself in a gay sexual relationship makes my stomach turn. I should note that I do not have any reaction, positive or negative to other men having gay relationships, only ones that theoretically involve me! When gay men have come on to me, I have had a few reactions like Christian's to Quentin's advance in addition to just saying thanks but no thanks. My point is that they could have handled the cake lady's intimation that they were gay much more brutally, and in most people's minds they would have been right to do so. But they played along and did so with sophistication, both from a character and writer standpoint. |
 CarverAntics RE: The Cake scene was overateNov 28 - 3:13 pm | Kronic, I am sorry if I seemed too hostile with my first post. While I still disagree, I now respect and understand your view points. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:28 pm | Kronic - ok I went back and looked. You dont explicitly advocate censoring the scene. My bad. Although I think that was implicit in your remarks. You were saying something is bad about having that scene there. My objections are that its not bad because its showing what people do. Like it or not, there's nothing wrong with scenes that show what people do. You said the julia violence seen was justified since it showed negative consequences for shaun. Why does it need that justification? If the scene didnt have those consequences, you would disapprove? Men hit their wives all the time without accountability or consequences. It would be wrong for a show to illustrate that? (or at least, you would disapprove). you see thats the part I dont get about your position. Also, in rereading the your original post, you say no way would s and c ever be mistaken for a gay couple. Part of your justification is that the woman would have been told who the couple really was. Obviously, she was not, that was a basic premise of the scene. She why couldnt she have mistaken them for a gay couple? Because of their manly personalities? Careful now!!! On the topic of propogating stereotypes....ahem..... |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:35 pm | When i typed "religious right", i was thinking of a specific group of religious extremists, not christians in general. Sorry if that term offended you. In truth, i wrote that b/c i couldn't remember which religious fanatic was referenced in the above post. I should have just typed "people like Falwell". |
 flameonlkedragon This argument is overratedNov 28 - 3:39 pm | Hate to spoil it for anyone, but I don't care because it's important to this argument. You can be mad at me if you like. We will see a man-on-man sex scene on an episode of Nip/Tuck very soon. How homophobic is that? No show on TV has pushed the envelope on homosexuality like Nip/Tuck. We see transsexuals, lesbians, gay men, etc. Now there's going to be man-on-man sex. I know gay rights people have complained for a while that it's ok to show two women kissing/making love but not men. Well, here you go. Don't miss tomorrow's episode, ok? |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:42 pm | If it sounded like i was saying that S/C couldn't be confused for a gay couple, that's not what i meant. I meant that that specific woman probably should have known they were straight b/c the booking was probably done by Kimber (she seemed to be the one in charge of all those things when she was talking with Christian), or, as a practical matter, Christian would have innitially introduced Sean as the stand in. See, that was my OTHER problem with the scene. It seemed unrealistic. As a practical matter, i don't think that the woman could have been oblivious to Kimber's existence and/or cancelling. In fact, the conversations that she overheard between Sean/Christian involved julia. They were also on their third piece of cake or so. There's a lot of time for interaction between the woman and S/C and i doubt (as a practical/realistic matter) that Kimber's name wouldn't have come up. Shoot, i can't remember the 2nd part of the question. I don't like how this message board doesn't allow you to see other posts when you are typing. BRB |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:42 pm | Oh, and on Will and Grace. I dont like that show much anymore either. The Jack character is insufferable. Yes he's a blatant stereotype, but I know gay dudes WAY more flaming than him. I find that personality type rather unpleasant. Grace I just dont think is a good actress, and she doesnt pull off what she's supposed to. Will could be a good character. But even he succumbs (hehe) to the stereotype all too often. Interrupting a serious conversation to remark about color schemes, etc. pretty pathetic. The only thing the show has going for it is Karen. Her pill popping drunken shallowness is a scream. And she's a talent, and pulls it off very well. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:53 pm | Ok, the Sean/violence/consequences argument. Yes, there are men who beat women and never suffer any consequences for their actions. But, we, as viewers, aren't expected to root for them. Sean is the lead character....the protagonist who is generally good, but has flaws (like all people do). If HE was able to get away with the violence without any consequences, it would be hard to root for him. When Matt discovered Quentin and Julia, he said "comprende esse". That clearly had racial implications. But, it's ok to come from a character such as Matt b/c he's so screwed up and hurt. If Sean was upset that Julia was sleeping with Quentin b/c he was latino, then I'd have an issue with that. Everything has to be taken in context. Archie Bunker was a revolutionary television character. He was racist, and sexist, and said very hurtful things. But his character was miserable. Did he ever smile once on the show? In the unaired epsiode of family guy [when you wish upon a weinstein], there were many anti-semetic jokes / stereotypes throughout the episode. But, it was peter saying them. Peter is a bumbling idiot. Thus, when he says them, it's obvious that the writers are showing that such beliefs are unintelligent. I think we need a new word for "homophobic". Because i don't think that the writers fear homosexuals. I just think there are occassionaly scenes (like the cake one), that are less pro-tolerance/equality than others. There have been many issues reagarding homosexuality throughout the series. Obviously, the writers aren't afraid to address these issues. I just think in this one case, they may have unintentionally promoted a stereotype or implied that it's ok to make fun of homosexuals. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 3:59 pm | oh, two tidbits i forgot: 1) 110% agree that people saying that Quentin's bisexuality makes it more likely that he is the carver is absurd. little old ladies get raped too. It's about power, not sex/attraction. 2) did someone really say i wasn't funny because i don't put smiley faces in my posts or break up my thoughts with jokes? how is that an issue? |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:01 pm | Why would you have an issue with Sean not liking Julia with a latino? That would be realistic. It happens all the time. What would your issue be? And as for Archie Bunker, you do realize he is one of the most beloved characters in the history of sitcom tv, dont you? He is a character that we all route for. Of course we know his remarks are racist, but we route for him. If Sean roughed up Julia without consequences, we would still route for him. I dont think that would be irresponsible of the writers, nor do I think Norman Lear was irresponsible for creating a lovable racist in Archie Bunker. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:05 pm | If sean was racist and there were no consequences to that, I wouldn't be able to root for him. Can you imagine a show where Ariel's family are the lead characters and you root for them? I couldn't. If Sean was allowed to spew racist statements without it even being addressed (if you notice, nobody commented on Matt's use of comprende esses), then I'd have a problem. Yes, i know Archie was beloved by the audience. But that was in part b/c he had a family that corrected him, and he was clearly made out to be uninformed and ignorant. Another example would be Andy Sipowitz. He was racist, but he struggled with those issues and he suffered as a result of his ignorance. That's why I was able to root for him. EDIT: if Sean roughed up julia in that one instance, and there were no consequences, i would still be able to root for him. In fact, i thought the scene was so powerful b/c i think his reaction was realistic and ALMOST justified (or at least excusable). That's why it was so conflicting as a viewer. I sat there and thought "wow, i should be really upset that he just hit julia", but I wasn't. It was complex and multilayered. If he came home every night and slapped her around, and there were no other discussions or ramifications of that behavior, then I couldn't root for him. modified: Nov 28 - 8:07 pm GMT |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:06 pm | Yes, I agree that the bisexuality thing being at all equated with rape is heinous. It reminds me of discussions about homosexuality and people start equating it with pedophilia. Or in discussions about sex ed in schools, people equate 'sexually active' with promiscuous. These are all very different things. I remember when Basic Instinct came out, there was a big objection in the gay community that the sharon stone's character was a lesbian, one of the few lesbians in a lead role, and they made her a psychopathic killer. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:12 pm | Yes, archie was uninformed and ignorant. But what racist isnt? I think we loved him because we were allowed to see the good person underneath and his racism was an unfortunate product of his enviornment (he was beaten by his father, and brought up around hate). So often, we're not able to see any good in a racist. Myself included, I dont even try to see the good in hate-based people. I think Archie probably did wonders for helping to combat racism by showing how it can consume a person in spite of good intentions, and that there's a little archie in all of us (especially edith, hehe). |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:12 pm | That's interesting regarding Sharon Stone, b/c i've talked to people who don't want the Carver to be Liz (or, to a lesser extent Quentin) b/c of the same issue. Some people feel that if Liz was the Carver, all the positives that came from her being a strong lesbian character would be wiped out. I'm not sure I agree with that. I don't think the Sopranos are anti-italian-american just because the characters are italian-american. I think it's almost anti-PC to think that if a gay character happens to also be a killer that it implies that the two characteristics are intertwined. Again, as long as you go above and beyond the generic stereotypes, then you can break away from these characteristics as being defining. I don't vew Liz as a lesbian. I view Liz as Liz, with all of her characteristics. Thus, I won't be offended if she turns out to be the Carver (not to mention i bet a plate of brownies with someone that she is it). |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:14 pm | is Ariel "ignorant" or "uninformed"? I don't know. I think she's very intelligent and has a wealth of knowledge. It's just that she had the ultimate "conclusion" in her head before she applied this intelligence. There's very little of what she said that was incorrect by a factual standpoint. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:16 pm | I haven't seen All in the Family that much, but I always assumed the point was that Archie would appear on the surface to be the leader of the family, the one in control, and the one intolerant of others, but that wasn't the case at all. Edith was mousy, but they were on equal footing to a certain extent. And, the young blood of Meathead and the daughter were taking the power away from him outdated ways. |
| SiddCarverRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:26 pm | Fair enough, yes there are many intelligent people who are racist. I guess I was referring to ignorant and uniformed to be just on the race issue itself. But on this topic, I've always felt racism itself is highly misunderstood. We're all so quick to hate it. And yes, its heinous and toxic. But where does it really come from? Its so utterly prevalent throughout all cultures, it cant just be incidental. It seems to me that since we know we have a self preservation instinct, and a species preservation instinct, in between the two it seems logical that we also have an ethnocentric 'race preservation' instinct. Of course this is just theory, but it makes sense to me. And how would such an instinct manifest itself? Well, avoiding interracial reproduction would be essential. And how would that be assured? By the cultural evolution selecting in favor of hatred of other races. Thats just one theory. But as prevalent as it is, it seems that there is a 'natural' aspect to racism. Like its a fundamental part of the human condition. I think only by accepting that its natural to have those feelings can we move past them. Hating the racist just propogates more hate (I'm guilty myself, of course). I think racism perhaps was once necessary in an earlier epoch for the reasons above or reasons like them. But no longer is necessary, but its a legacy that has stuck with our culture. Perhaps continued obscuring of the races will usher in a movement past it. Who knows. Just my opinion. Nobody be offended please. |
| kronicfatigueRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:35 pm | I agree that it's "natural". In addition to your self preservation points, I'd also say that insecurity and feeling lonely are also "natural" human conditions. In social situations, it's sometimes easier to feel drawn to people who are "like you". That could mean someone who has the same type of job as you, the same gender, the same race, the same type of upbringing, etc etc. There is also a correlation between racism and immigration patterns in our country. As another culture/race immigrated, other cultures felt threatened. This was in part do the new competition for jobs and whatnot. When the Irish first started immigrating, they were on the bottom of the totem poll. Right now, Latinos are at the bottom of our country's racist food chain. This would tie into your theories regarding species' survival instincts. Whether it's the Italian Mafia or the KKK, groups form for their own (perceived) self interest and survival. You can even extend these ideas to the social contract theory and other areas of sociology. |
| blackeclipseRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 4:56 pm | I thought S & C were just acting "loving" in that cake scene. No gender there. Wil and Grace - What is Karen anyway? BI? Her character is Over the top but I love it. Sean never hit Julia. He grabbed her by the throat and shoved her into the fridge. Not that that is less severe I just never saw him hit her. And maybe Christian and Sean just don't like Quinten, not bi-sexuals. That's not being homophob although Sean's behavior at the park was questionable if not blatant but that could have been the situation. modified: Nov 28 - 8:58 pm GMT modified: Nov 28 - 9:05 pm GMT |
| NickyD85RE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 7:06 pm | Im pretty loose guy, very lightened. Take nothing too seriously, but I can kind of see why someone would have opinions on this matter. For some reason, this episode brought out alot of racial/ethical/gay issues and offensives. Between the cake scene, Ariel's speeches, the black women slavery collectables, Ariels fathers speeches of Wrath, and the sawista earings.. its like damn. did anyone see this coming? Next thing you know you have Matt resembling a skin head showing up at the wedding w/ boots and a fukin sawista earing. Saying 'this is who I am' WTF Now dont get me wrong, I dont have much of a problem w/ it. But its hard not to think about the mixed messages. |
| CandyRE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 7:14 pm | >>>> Ok, the Sean/violence/consequences argument. Yes, there are men who beat women and never suffer any consequences for their actions. But, we, as viewers, aren't expected to root for them. Sean is the lead character....the protagonist who is generally good, but has flaws (like all people do). If HE was able to get away with the violence without any consequences, it would be hard to root for him. <<<< I must have missed the scene where he hit Julia. He grabbed her and pushed her (not good things, granted, but different than hitting). He was in a moment of intense emotional duress to the point of vomiting in the kitchen sink, and collapsing to the floor, sobbing, after she left. That doesn't excuse him, but I do think there's a distinction between that and hitting. (There's no indication Julia was bruised from the encounter, and I've never seen the alledged "dent" in the refrigerator.) I find it interesting how few people ever go back and mention the fact that Julia throws a coffee mug the length of the kitchen aimed at Sean's head in the pilot episode for a lot less provocation. Just because he ducked doesn't make it any less violent. He hit Matt, but I won't even go into arguing how many fathers would have when the kid just manhandled his mother. I don't condone domestic violence, but in the two instances where Sean behaves that way, the circumstances were extreme, and he's been on the receiving end of at least one violent action from Julia, just to be fair. |
| ladym05RE: The Cake scene was overate Nov 28 - 10:02 pm | All this season I would have paid Sean to hit Matt and Julia. |
 Nathalie RE: The Cake scene was overateNov 28 - 11:12 pm | I would be very, very happy if Sean and Julia sent Matt off to boarding/military school! He needs it. But as for his neo-nazi gf, I think he's investing his anger of his parents into the hate of nazism... channeling it, if you will. But come on, he HAS TO comprehend that Ariel's family is unacceptable in today's society. |
| love C.T.khronic fatigue Nov 28 - 11:51 pm | It ws me who commented about the smiley faces and humor thing...sorry, I was gettin' pretty heated!! This issue does definitely get people going doesn't it? That's a good thing because someone might be here and change their mind on a certain issue or at least think a little more about it before making up their mind. I think that the thing bout Costa being bisexual does throw people off a little but to try and put the carver/rape thing with being bi is going the wrong way....I think anyone who really likes this show and can join into such an intelligent forum like this would not even be able to do such a thing, I mean , try to link the two issues together. I have seen a few come and go here that do that.... oh, here's a smiley face for you khronic... |
| love C.T.kronic fatigue Nov 28 - 11:52 pm | It ws me who commented about the smiley faces and humor thing...sorry, I was gettin' pretty heated!! This issue does definitely get people going doesn't it? That's a good thing because someone might be here and change their mind on a certain issue or at least think a little more about it before making up their mind. I think that the thing bout Costa being bisexual does throw people off a little but to try and put the carver/rape thing with being bi is going the wrong way....I think anyone who really likes this show and can join into such an intelligent forum like this would not even be able to do such a thing, I mean , try to link the two issues together. I have seen a few come and go here that do that.... oh, here's a smiley face for you kronic... |
 EyezWithoutAFace RE: kronic fatigueNov 29 - 12:18 am | If sean and christian acted "black", wouldn't that be racist [and yes, i know saying "acting black" is in and of itself racist. The more accurate description would be poor/urban city/street]? Why is it ok for straight people to act gay? It was meant to be lighthearted and comical. What's funny about acting gay? It's funny because it's out of character not because they are trying to demean gay people. They were having a good time with the gay thing because they were caught offguard by her assumption. The situation they were put into was lighthearted and comical. Maybe if they acted flamboyant and used lisps it would be a little demeaning but all they did was hold hands and say they loved eachother, which to themselves they found funny. According to your logic, acting as something you aren't is morally reprehensible? Julian McMahon is Australian and acts American, is that racist? John Hensley is like in his 30s and acts 17, is that wrong? Yeah they didn't joke about those, but it's rediculous to be offended by acting. |
| tracydarlinRE: kronic fatigue Nov 29 - 1:37 am | When you really think about it, they weren't acting "gay" they were acting engaged.... LOL. I watched it again tonight... I really look forward to the new episode!!  |
 blahnik Cake scene underratedNov 29 - 7:38 pm | Blah blah blah. Someone needs to go smoke a joint... Have people actually read all the posts in this thread? I lost interest after about the tenth one. I can't wait for the bag scene tonight!!! modified: Nov 29 - 11:40 pm GMT |
| flexy633RE: Cake scene underrated Nov 30 - 1:49 am | Jesus Christ (sorry all you Christians), but could this have been blown anymore out of proportion???? Dear God help us if Quentin or Liz is the Carver because then everyone will be saying it's offensive to the gay/bi community! It really ticks me off that a gay person or bisexual person is supposed to be so loved and admired otherwise we who dislike a person (not based on their sexual preference) are considered hate mongers even though we may dislike the person and not necessarily their gender. For example, if I got into a fight with a lesbian woman, but not even knowing she was lesbian, it would be considered a hate crime just because she is a lesbian. I think that's obsurd! I suppose all the gays/transsexuals/bisexuals applauded the scene where Matt was beat to a pulp and pissed on too, right? |
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